So you’ve met this really great person; been with the person and
gotten to like and at love that person…., but now you feel you want to
spend the rest of your life with him/her, right? The question now
staring you in the face is how well do you know that, that person is
really indeed the rightful person you want to settle down with? What
guides your judgment in choosing that person out of a million others
you’ve come across? You may probably have your instincts deciding for
you to go in for that person, but is that good enough a reason to want
to marry someone? There are some serious questions to ask before
marriage and this is what we are going to share.

Now, marriage is a big step taken in a relationship and life in
general and as much as possible, much caution needs to be exercised when
choosing an ideal candidate or partner to settle down with. You need to
verify for yourself and get to know what you really going in for. No
one really wants to get married and later regret ever doing it in the
first place, plus having to live with the consequences that accompany
the choice made for the rest of their lives. This is why you need to
access yourself and the relationship you find yourself in. So now, I
pose this question to you out there who’ve found yourselves involved one
way or another in relationships that have reached that peak of
seriousness in tying the knot….,’How well informed or prepared are you
in entering this union(marriage) ?’ To better inform your choices and
give you added knowledge on how to go about this, below are the
selected ten most important questions to ask yourself in relation with
your decision on selecting the right person to tie the knot. They are
things you need to do and know before saying those vows finally!
Questions to ask before marriage : You need to ask yourself or search thoroughly within you, your true feelings regarding your partner and how best you view the relationship you have with that person.
What this means here is that, you have to be able to tell whether its
love, lust or like
you feel for your partner. If you arrive at love, then you know for
sure that that’s a feeling worth committing to. However, if it’s lust or
like you feel towards that person, then you know too well what that
also means. Love and lust don’t make it in marriage. It can get you
there, but be sure the union will come crumbling when you least expect
it!
Questions to ask before marriage : How you two both view your career aims, goals and aspirations.
Do you support each other every step of the way and are willing to
achieve dreams set individually and separately by the two of you. You
need to get a concrete answer to this question, because it can either
make or break your union eventually when you two get to have conflicting
ideas and feelings towards each other’s profession or career aims and
goals. You need to have a partner that’s supportive of your every
decision career- wise; one who would help you achieve them in the
marriage.
Questions to ask before marriage -how well do you and your partner both accept your religious faiths and affiliations?
Whether a Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Jew or even an
atheist; you and your partner should be able to have that level of
tolerance towards each other’s religious preferences and personal views.
It doesn’t have to be the case where both of you don’t agree on each
other’s religions as well as beliefs and faith. You may end up marrying
but this inconsistency can ruin your marriage as much it would want to
because religions and beliefs are a person’s most sacred and revered
assets.
Questions to ask before marriage : Spending habits.
It’s very important to know the level of spending and saving ability
or habits when it comes to the relationship and how effective this will
go into the marriage when you two get to tie the knot. A partner, who is
carefree when it comes to spending and is more or less a ‘spendthrift’,
is not an ideal candidate to choose to spend the rest of one’s life
with. Your marriage is bound to go down the drain leaving you guys in an
absolute mess full of financial frustrations. You don’t need that! You
need someone who’s going to help manage your home, your family…, not
someone who’d cause you to go down the drain immersed in bankruptcy.
Questions to ask before marriage:You need to consider each other’s sexual chemistry!
No marriage can work out properly if partners aren’t at all
compatible sexually. How well do you bond with your partner when it
comes to lovemaking? Do you feel you two connecting in many ways or
having that spark ignited between the two of you physically? All of
these you need to consider before getting into that union with your
partner. You wouldn’t want to get into the marriage and then later get
to realize you not at all compatible with the person you’ve chosen to
spend eternity with. It might just be too late. Sex is key to happiness
and fulfillment in every marriage. It’s very important to have and enjoy
that moment with whomever you choose to tie the knot with.
Questions to ask before marriage : Consider each other’s flaws and how far you can go to cope with those flaws in marriage.
You can love someone, yes…no doubt, but how well do you do to love
the errors and imperfections of that person? This is something you need
to be sure of before deciding to marry them. The way and manner you get
to accept people in a relationship is often carried out in whatever
commitment you decide to have with them. So, it is very paramount that
the two of you get to accept, like and love each other’s flaws as well
as short-comings even in marriage.
Questions to ask before marriage : What is your partner’s views are
concerning the marriage and what they want to achieve or hope to attain
in the union.
Is your partner willing to have kids? Are they ready to take up the
challenges associated with marriage and parenting? Are they willing or
have any interests when it comes to starting a family? All these you
need to ask or be aware of so as to better inform you of the kind of
marriage you entering and whether or not the person you wish to marry is
the ideal person to fit that role. You both need to know what your
expectations are concerning the marriage so that feelings and emotions
don’t get tampered with at the end of the day when you’ve said your
‘I do’s’ and ‘till death do us parts’.
Questions to ask before marriage : You relationship with each other’s parents or immediate family relations.
It’s a must to know how best your partners family accept or
disapprove your relationship with their child and how effective that
like or love for the relationship can go to help you two when you get
to tie the knot eventually. You have to access the family you getting
yourself involved into, and know how best you can deal with or handle
them when issues arise Not being in good terms with your partners
immediate family can take a toll on your relationship together and might
even go to the extreme of determining whether you two get to live
happily when you get married or get to face the hostility coming from
their end. It can either go well for the two of you or it can get pretty
uncomfortable when ignored and you head in right for the marriage.
Questions to ask before marriage : How well do you know or relate with each other’s friends or pals in your personal circles?
Whether you like it or not, you’ll have to end up seeing or being
around your partner and their friends or buddies once you get married
and when you not in good terms or relations with them, this becomes a
very
BIG problem between the two of you. As such, you need to
address this question to yourself and as much as possible get to know if
you and your partner really and truly accept each other’s circle of
friends. This will ideally help both of you in your relationship and
marriage life.
Questions to ask before marriage : You need to consider each other’s past.
You have to. I mean, whether you like it or not, you both have got
pasts or more or less some history before meeting each other and these
have brought you guys to your current positions or stands in life. You
need to at least know certain details relating to each other’s past; so
as to avoid uncertainties and surprises when you finally and eventually
get to tie the knot. Even though ones past life and experiences may not
necessarily matter when you love them, it’s quite vital to know their
life story, where they started from to where they’ve gotten to. You
can’t spend the rest of your life literally
with a total stranger can you now? Therefore the need and must to properly get to know your partner is unavoidable and must be done.
To wrap everything up, I’ll say that no one can say for certain how
well they know or think they’re ready for marriage and also knowing the
right person to do this with. But one thing I do know for sure is that
in order to take the step towards marrying someone, you need to
visualize the whole relationship and take into consideration how well
you feel you know your partner and how you view them in terms of being
by your side for the rest of your life. Marriage is a long way towards a
road of uncertainty. No one knows what the future holds in terms of
marriage and how long it’s going to last or breakdown in the long run.
The choice to have that lasting and enjoyable married life lies truly in
your hands. No one can decide for you on the appropriate person to
choose to spend the rest of your life with, only you and you alone have
the power to decide based on your judgments of things. But be sure to
bear in mind that not every relationship necessarily ends up in
marriage. You might be lucky to find the ideal candidate and virtues
you’d admire in a marriage partner with some partners in some
relationships, but with others too, it can be a totally different
scenario. So, don’t be quick to feel disappointed when things don’t go
right in one failed relationship. With the right attitude and positive
mindset, one is bound to find that perfect and ideally suited partner
they seek.
Source: AskLoveDr